There are many free dating services out there, but you might find that they have too many clingy women or simply not enough looking for a fling. You might turn to “getting laid fast” websites for your hookup, but those aren’t always free and can actually end up being a scam if you’re not careful. Well what else is there? Social networking, sure, but those aren’t really built for casual sex partners. What other strategy can you use to find other adults who are just up for dating or messing around? Craigslist. This is a site used for everything from selling furniture to finding jobs to finding people. They have a section called Casual Encounters. It follows the typical m4w, w4w, m4m format, meaning that it’s a man looking for a woman, a woman looking for a woman, or man looking for a man. Depending on what type of dating you want you can put in certain information to get it. Here are some strategies for disguising your ad depending on the type of chick you want.
Make Sure She’s Old Enough
First and foremost, it’s important to make sure that you find an adult. I know that this is jumping ahead a little bit, but you just can’t always trust the pictures that people send in. Don’t mess around with the law and get caught up on one of those underage caught on camera shows. Asking age and all of that is fine, but before you meet the lady ask for a video or webcam chat to verify that they are who they say they are. Ask them to say something personal to you or the details of where you are meeting. If they look even a little bit young, don’t be afraid to see I.D. That awkward little moment of her whipping it out is a million times better than going to the slammer for a piece of jail bait. Once you’ve figured out that this is a grown-ass woman you are dealing with, you’re good to go.
If you’re looking for just a fling, then list “casual dating” as a keyword here. Mention that you aren’t ready to settle down and are just looking for some fun. This will get it across that you are down for sex and hanging out, really. There’s not much else it could mean. List some dates or scenarios that you would have fun with to make sure that she is compatible with what you’re looking for. Anything that doesn’t mesh isn’t really worth it when you’re looking for something so simple.
If you’re down for a full on “let’s be together forever” starter date, don’t list that immediately. The only types of women that will attract are ones that have been left at the Alter a few times or ones that will collect your hair while you sleep. Unless you’re really, really ready for that, don’t even go there. Plus, how weird is it to say you are looking to fully commit and then go off of just a simple box of text to base whether that’s something that you really want to do with that person? Very weird, is the answer. What you can say is that you aren’t just on the market for a fling and you’re looking for someone who is a little bit more serious. That’s just putting it out there that yeah, let’s do more than just bang on the first date, but let’s also see where this thing goes. Once they start flooding your inbox with date suggestions or phone numbers, check out number one and then proceed. It’s important not to just judge on looks at this point. It would be different if you were just trying to hit it and quit it, but you’re looking for a bit more at this point. So pick someone who’s on your attractiveness level (be careful of the super hot ones, it could be a trap) and read what they have to say. Unless they are totally opposite to what you’re looking for, give it a shot. She might be a world champion in chugging beer or something else really cool, and you would have never known otherwise. Go on all the dates and make your decision from there.
If you’re looking for a one night stand then it will take some tact to list this. Craigslist has a no sex soliciting rule, so you’ll have to change your strategy to get yourself a consensual ‘adult date’. One way to say you’re d.t.f. without actually saying it is to either go with option two and say that you are looking for a fling, and then in person really obviously hint (or flat out say) that you are only wanting a jump off. Another route to go would be to list that you are a photographer looking for nude models. This is purely an art form and nothing else will be involved. Make up some fancy name for a project that you are working on and mention that you are trying to build your rep so no money will be exchanged. In actuality, it’s like you’re getting a free hooker. If the girls do end up showing up and they are actual models, then go ahead and take some pictures of them and act it up. Then after that you can get your full mack on and try to get them in the bedroom. If they say yes, awesome. If they think you’re some sort of pig and storm out, then whatever. It’s not as if you are an actual photographer whose reputation would be on the line. You can remove the Casual Encounters ad if she has a hissy fit over it or you can just leave it up and see if anyone else is down. She might report you, to which you can say that you did actually get some wonderful shots and that was what was agreed. You had never expected anything else and didn’t harm her in anyway. You’re just a ladies’ man, like Don Juan.
If you are looking for someone who is down for all of the weird stuff that you do, it’s best to try to find someone for a fling. Now, if you are wondering where to get a fling, we would suggest you to go for online dating sites. But beware of the adult friend finder scam, visit http://flingtacticsguide.com/site-reviews/adultfriendfinder/ and read aff.com review before choosing the site as your fling finder. Once, you find your fling partner, slowly work in the fetish that you have as things start getting hot and heavy. If she finds it too weird, you aren’t losing much. But if she’s down to at least try it then you’re in luck. However, if you really don’t want anything more than just banging, then use the artist line from number three. You can also change it to say that you are an alternative artist who does latex shooting, bondage shots, or whatever else. That way you narrow your market down to what you’re looking for and don’t have to sift through conventional models to get to them.
It’s important when putting this thing together to be careful of your wording. Prostitution is illegal and that’s not what you’re going for, but some could misconstrue it that way. Avoid using words that are even related to sex and use a separate email address for them to contact you, if possible. That just makes it easier to keep track of any conversations or hits you might have gotten from the website.